Saturday, October 31, 2009

Shades and Shadowy Memories of Halloweens Past...

Now that I have your attention...
Boy, Halloween doesn't seem like the same 'ol rollicking, nutso holiday
like before.
There are a few more costumes, Halloween and otherwise, that I've worn...see 'way 'way below.

I remember...
-The Halloween weather was ALWAYS autumn-perfect. You'd see leaves in colors that you'd only see in a 64-Crayola crayon pack. There'd be only a slight breeze, making the leaves dance in a 'spooky waltz' around us. I can't EVEN remember it raining on a Halloween.
-In school we'd have 'art'; pumpkins, bats, witches, anything Halloween-ish, any holiday art that didn't involve any creative thought on our part nor the teacher's. Each season had pre-thought of, pre-cut artwork-Easter, Christmas, Thanksgiving, St. Paddy's Day, Valentine's Day. Did some coloring, brought it home, it'd be on the refridgerator for a week or so until the Thanksgiving stuff came home. Hey, art was better than social studies by an EPIC margin.
-Dalmation outfits for both my sister and I, which were cold weather PJ's doing double duty as costumes, with big black felt dots all over them. Why do parents do that? Turn perfectly good PJ's into a costume, so then we have to lay on the buttons/felt dots/frou-frou costume crap that was sewn onto the PJ's?
-Halloween fairs and carnivals; no rides, just fish bowl ping-pong ball toss, regular ring toss on coke bottles, bean bag toss, cake walk, and lots of plastic trinkets like rings, necklaces, spiders and stuff that we thought at the time were GOLD but ended up being stuffed into a drawer for a gazillion years until we cleaned the drawer out and threw them away.
-Our mom making our favorite dinner, spaghetti.
-Plastic jack o'lantern buckets? NO WAY, they'd NEVER hold enough loot! We used the BIG GUNS-large grocery store paper bags with handles or, if we were into sibling competition and a lot of short sprints, pillowcases. Sometimes we'd make such good time, going door to door, that we'd have to empty a full pillowcase at home and go back out to fill up again. Speaking of the grocery store paper bags, in school we'd bring in said paperbags, cut eyeholes in them and decorate them as masks. I sucked at it, but Tori was really good. She was the 'artsy-fartsy' one in the family.
The houses in our neighborhood now are too big and far apart, so it's not energy-effective for kids to go trick or treating around here. The people don't give extra-special treats, just same ol', same ol', so each year the kids would get fewer and fewer. One year, however, we had a TON of kids...figure that they musta bussed 'em in from Fresno or something.
Our feet would be in the starting blocks just after dinner at dusk, just WAITING for the street lamps to come on. Once the streetlamps came on, it was like the starting gun at a track meet. G'BYE!!!
(The littlest kids were out just before dusk, but their parents usually just went to 5 houses then took 'em home. I now realize that the little ones went early, kind of like a runner that has a few seconds to get ahead, because the little ones' parents didn't want to get run over by us.)

The first 5-10 houses were warm up houses, to get our 'Stop-Yell "Trick or Treat"-Look at the Loot-Run' timing down pat. Our parents wouldn't EVEN try to keep up-they'd wait on the corner for us to circumnavigate the block, they knew we'd be back to them within around 20 minutes.
Why is it that the people who have shitty candy, like boxes of raisins, just place them into your sack so nobody could tell what they put in there, whereas people that had great candy would toss it in there so everybody could see what everybody was getting? AND we used to get handfuls of candycorn, for God's sake! The neighbors would grab a handful and just toss it into your bag.
Just as now, our parents would check our candy, but I think the motivation was a little different than now. Now, parents look for contraband, unsafe stuff, possible tampered-with candy; THEN, our parents went through our candy but I'd notice some of the REALLY choicest, goodest stuff gone after they went through it. I guess we should've thanked our parents for saving us from potentially unsafe stuff. I GUESS...
-We never needed flashlights, we'd just trust our 'radar feet' to avoid the neighbors' sprinklerheads, and if we tripped and fell over one of them, well, we'd just pick ourselves up and try to make up for those lost 10 seconds of candy-gathering we spent picking ourselves up. Didn't bother crying, that'd take ANOTHER 10 seconds away.
Another note-did anyone realize how much time we as kids spend 'gathering stuff' during some holidays? The loot and spoils we get? Halloween, DUH, but Christmas for presents, Valentine's Day for valentines and candy, Easter for eggs and candy...I think it's a plot for our parents to make us do something to get us out of their hair and feed us candy to keep our mouths occupied. It's a plot. I know it. I use it even now.

-We'd go through all our candy and separate it into four piles:
Great
Good
So-so/Iffy (like those stupid boxes of raisins)
Duplicates
We would get dupes, and those would be for trading with siblings. Not everybody got the same thing each time.
We'd then leave the So-So candy in an obvious place (for our parents to find) then hide the good stuff in the closet. We'd put a couple of duplicate good ones in there so they'd get the idea that they had FOUND the stash.
-PICTURES. TONS of pictures and Super 8 movies of us. Pictures of us leaving, at the neighbors, coming back in with our full sacks, all sorts of pics. Wish I still had them.
-When we were older, we'd pick our own costumes, and try to be 'cool', be 'in'. Hard to do when you have no figure, no front, and you look more like a boy than a girl, but I tried. One year it was the British Invasion, Twiggy and the British black and white, checkerboard, plastic had look was in, so I did that. As usual, turned out sucky, but whatever. I think Halloweens like that taught me to prepare WELL in advance for any situation or event that requires special attire.
-When I was in my 'kinda' teens, in the 60's the neat places to go with a date were the haunted houses. They were THE place to go, especially with a cute guy. I'd pretend I didn't know the Campus Life friends that were monsters and I'd use every possible moment to scream and clutch at my date. If the guy liked me, he'd hold on to me and 'protect' me from those monsters. Unfortunately, I never went on a date where BOTH those things happened. It'd be either me trying to cling and he'd shy away with a non-verbal body language type of 'ewwww', or HIM trying to grab onto to me and try to cop a feel. I never knew if they did or not because when you're a -28 -AAAA bra size, a walnut would notice more than I could.
-I can remember a few very choice, very cool parties. My sister Tori always gave great parties; one year around 1979-1980 Bub and I went as Laurel and Hardy (I was Hardy) and another year Bub went as a priest, complete with a 'church key' around his neck (a beer can opener, children) and I went as a pregnant nun. I carried a guitar with me which had a sign on the back that read, "I should have DANCED all night!" Another year, we were barbarians.
One party was pretty cool also, given by some friends of ours in Moreno Valley 1992. I ACTUALLY still have a pic from that! They're below.

If I have a memoir of 'back in the day', I just can't avoid pics of kids to embarrass them with!
To the 'way below left is Laine as a devil (talk about TYPE-COSTUMING!) in 1985. Immediately below, he's a ninja in 1986.



Below is Jackie, circa NOW. TODAY. October 31, 2009.









Here are some blast from the past pics...below, Barry & I as barbarians for one of Tori's parties. I'm below as a cheerleader for a party in Moreno Valley, 1992. Shit, 17 YEARS AGO. YES, I still have the outfit, don't know if I can get into it or not...I'll give it a shot for NEXT Halloween, k?

Another 'costume' (or not) was 1974 LBPD, to the left. I took my hat off and my hair went flying.


DO NOT LAUGH AT THE NEXT ONE-IT WAS MY VERY VERY FIRST PROM, February 1970.

Sunday, October 18, 2009

I KICKED BUTT in the backyard today & celebrated with a little patio candlelight salad-and-wine dinner, with coffee by the firepit.




In celebration of my rocket-powered yard work, I got out a lot of the old patio candles for the tables and around the spa patio, lit the fire pit, lit the jacuzzi up a little bit, made an asian / chicken salad, got a couple of glasses of wine, made a pot of coffee, and had it all ready for the PD* (Laine and Jax, YOU know what PD stands for).
He was impressed. When he wasn't nodding off.

FYI-the statues of the ladies that are behind on the other side of the spa...those are actually fountains. The grecian ladies are standing on 3 fish each, and the fish spit. Well, you know, the fish are the fountains of water, and...you get it.


*Piggy Daddy...don't ask.

I got some olds pics of the kids that they will HATE. I love doing that to them.

Laine in August 2001 and June 2001.





Jackie sometime around late '80's and/or early 90's.



Thursday, October 15, 2009

The WROC Panty Ride Fundraiser for Collette's Children's Home-PICS!!!

It was AWESOME.
The most fun I've had in a long long time!
Am currently going thru all my pics, but here's some video...
They had this 'panty' contest, see...and yours truly got in it...
Video 1-'Getting Ready For The Contest'

Video 2-'The Contest Begins'



Video 3-'I Make The Cut-Top 4'




More pics to come!

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

My Day Yesterday and Today-STRESS CITY, but a thankful and thoughtful ending.

1. Dealing with doctors, trying to get them to CORRECTLY fill out State of California forms and NOT write dates over dates without their initials; giving them new forms that have been all filled out and all they need is the dr's signature, collecting the forms from the doctor's office and seeing that one form STILL hasn't been signed (this is why I ALWAYS check the forms and stuff BEFORE I leave the doctor's office).
2. Dealing with official government forms, making sure they're filled out totally correctly, every 't' crossed and every 'i' dotted, plus copied and scanned in, then sent out.
3. Dealing with taking 2 dogs separately (I can't control 2 dogs at once!) to the vet's for their normal 6 month shots and finding out one dog has an infection in her ears so she needs steroids and antibiotics, PLUS ear drops. THEN sending away for replacement dog tags because the ones we thought were theirs were actually for the OTHER two dogs we had. I cross-checked numbers and stuff.
4. Dealing with car repairs, dealing with checking on vacation time put in for work (and it NEVER happens with Bub's work, he always doesn't get paid for it because someone doesn't put in for it and he finds out afterwards); dealing with informing people that the date he comes back will be a week later than thought which means that I'll be on intermittent work schedule for another week; dealing with more xrays for the forearm and elbow (because Fallbrook Hospital never did those views, I checked because I HAVE the films); dealing with getting classes of mine covered; dealing with preparing meals, driving, driving, driving to places...
5. Dealing with kids-one kid wants a really cute (and comparatively kinda pricey) Halloween outfit. I found out simply because I innocently asked if her apt. complex does anything for the kids living there, will she need to get candy, and then I again innocently asked her if she's thought about a costume. BAD MOVE, MOM. She TOLD ME she had thought about it and proceeded to inform me as to what she wanted, namely the 'Playboy Bo-Peep'. I looked it up at Partycity.com, ok, $49.95, that's doable, I send her the pic, and she says, NO, she wants the light blue one. GUESS WHAT-the light blue cuter one is also 'way more money. Now, certain other friends of ours who are close to our family and love Jax to pieces (they'd never met Laine, I don't think, because there's NO WAY you could forget him once you meet him) will tell me that the outfit is AWESOME, especially on her. I did hesitate on it before going with it. I know, spoil city. The other kid is doing pretty well but they both kinda need 'help' due to cut hours and the economy. Which is still ok, but still stressful to mommy.
5a. Dealing with kids, Pt II...I'm texting/chatting with Jaxsie about Thanksgiving & wanted to make sure she had something going, either someplace to go or maybe to have something at her place and invite others who didn't have anyplace to go. Told her I'd pay for it.
She asked 'why the generosity' & I said I wanted her to NOT be alone on Thanksgiving, and to make sure that others weren't as well. Told her that I was, years ago, and it wasn't very cool, in fact it was downright depressing; how you feel alone and forgotten. Told her that she should make sure that others know they're thought of and how she should feel thankful and grateful that she is loved so much by so many people.

These are the conversations we have, texting back and forth.
This is why I really like this electronic age.
We talk MORE by texting than we ever have.

Now, LAINE and I, we're more of the 'instant message' Facebook or ISP online types.

6. Got a letter from one of my 'boys' (inmates in Utah that I write to) and it just made me wanna cry, the gratitude that just came outta that letter and hit me upside the head. He's sharing my letters and my motivational stuff with a lot of the other guys inside and they love it. Things like this make me sometimes feel I'm not doing enough, although a couple weeks back (before Bub's accident) I was sending letters or postcards that I made on my computer almost every day to both boys.

Stressful beginning, but a thankful/thoughtful ending.

Hmm, shit, what are WE doing for Thanksgiving? Oh, yeah, Thanksgiving dinner at lunchtime because Bub has 'Black Friday' the next day with a 3 AM tee-off time.

I'd LIKE to go to someone's place who has cable, so I can get into the Twilight Zone or Star Trek reruns all day, but no biggie.
Each Thanksgiving that's spent with family and/or friends is a great Thanksgiving & they can only get better compared to that one Thanksgiving I had in 1972 when I was 18.

Monday, October 5, 2009

A Selection and Collection of Varied Riding Thoughts.

Why do I ride?

When people ask me why I ride a motorcycle, they think it’s risky and dumb
They think I’m ‘channeling’ Eric von Zipper
And don’t realize I’m riding to the beat of my own drum.

I shrug & tell ‘em that I really like the feel of the wind on my face
Just like a doggie with his head out the window going in the car someplace.

I cruise down the road sitting so straight up, that some say I look like a cop
Cages slow down and get anxious, wondering if they’re gonna be stopped.

They’re sometimes secretly afraid that it’s a big bad biker guy
On a big bad motorcycle cruiser that’s shiny jet black.
As I pass they realize that it’s a Mom-type person riding by
With a small stuffed animal and ‘Rdng Ldy’on the back.

I give a final ‘princess on a float’ cute wave with my glove
Kicking the shit out of stereotypes is what I LOVE.

Sunday October 12th Wroc n' Wrol 1st Annual Motorcycle Panty Ride Fundraiser for Colette's Children's Home

Fundraiser for Colette's Children's Home in Huntington Beach, Ca.
http://www.wrocnwrol.com/
Women Riders Of California
We Ride Our Lifestyle
Registration 9 AM at Harley-Davidson Fullerton Anaheim on Orangethorpe and Magnolia, where the 5 and the 91 meet, kickstands up at 10:30 AM. Ending point at Original Mike's on 1st and Main St. in Santa Ana, VERY cool place!

Contest for male and female best panty riders!

Ride with your panties on the outside for charity!
Here's what the pin will look like!:


C'mon, guys, wouldn't you just LOVE to have this pin on your vest?

Donation is just one pair of women's or children's panties, tag still on them!!! Raffles, prizes, surprises, you have GOT to be there!!!

I'M going to be there-isn't that enough? And with 'panties' on???? Come see what I CAN wear on my CAN!!!!!

The 'fallout' of a motorcycle accident of your partner and the stuff that nobody talks about or knows.

When someone is injured in an accident, it totally affects any sort of relationship they may have-wife, girlfriend, relative, friend, anyone. We will carry the assumption that the relationship is considered 50-50. This relationship that they were actively participating in, well, that percentage goes OUT THE WINDOW.
Let me explain.

*You have a relationship/partnership.
*It's a 50-50 relationship/partnership. (Yes, we all KNOW that it's really NOT, sometimes it's 60-40, sometimes it's 30-70, sometimes it's...ok, YOU get the picture.)
*1/2 of that relationship gets in an accident and hurt. Hurt seriously, to the point of disability and not being able to do 'customary and regular' activities, work, WHATEVER.
*The percentage dynamic changes, because the hurt party cannot do whatever it is that they were doing to keep the 100% figure going.
*The other member of the partnership picks up a percentage of that slack.


It's wearing on both the healing party and the caregiver party.
The healing party feels like shit because they can't do the things they did or were able to do, and the caregiving party feels overwhelmed because not only are they looking after the injured person but also trying to do all the things the injured party USED to do.

The particulars:
CHORES:
The traditional chores, i.e. washing dishes, writing out checks, cooking, feeding dogs, garbage, picking up dog poop, etc...
BARRY CAN'T DO RIGHT NOW.

The other chores, i.e. communications, grocery shopping, daily commitments, tracking automotive/motorcycle maintenance, washing clothes, cleaning the spa & patio, etc.
I STILL CAN DO.

I pick up the slack with a lot of the stuff Bub did, although he has really come through on the money stuff, some of the garbage, cooking etc. It's tough to get him to stop moving, but he feels he has to.

The hard parts are not only all the appointments for different things and running around doing errands, Dr. appt's, making sure that everything's being utmost done for him etc. because he can't drive far yet & still gets tired (I mean, HEY, he had some MAJOR trauma to his torso!), but the advocating with the different medical professionals, checking all the paperwork, checking to make sure he's sleeping comfortably through the night (he wasn't for a bit, which scared the PEE outta me!) and checking his overall wounds to make sure they're healing.
A lot of it is also the loss of freedom for both of you; time for you and mobility for him.

Think about it...
-You can't just call your partner and ask them to run over and pick up your dry cleaning/milk at the grocer/gas for the car/Sam's Club for salami/WalMart for dogfood.
-You can't just go for a spin on your bikes for a small trip (well, he DOESN'T HAVE ONE ANYMORE, now, DOES HE?!).
-You have to think about your partner's mobility and pain issues when you want to playfully 'slug' him for a smart-assed remark. (I did this accidentally and felt TERRIBLE about it later)
-Only one of you knows totally what's happening each day re: appointments and doctors and forms because the other needs to save their strength for healing, and that's the ONLY PURPOSE they have right now.

I tell people quasi-humorously that it's Bub's job to heal and it's MY job to be a bitch.